Hold out

I will hold out for real love

I will hold out for intimacy

I will hold out until my heart is ready

I will hold out for God’s timing

I will hold out for purity

I will hold out for just one man or woman

I will hold out so that I can have butterflies

I will hold out for all that is sacred in God’s eyes

I will hold out when others around me are giving in

I will hold out as long as it takes

I will hold out my open heart to You, Lord

I will hold out my empty hand and wait

I will hold out for my future husband

I will hold out for my future wife

-Rachel Gunn

I know, I know, the last post was about love and relationships and here I am again with another on the topic. I received quite a bit of feedback from you, men, women, teenagers, on the last post requesting further discussions. I truly am grateful for the feedback and hope I can continue the discourse in some of your areas of interest. Now, I am no expert, but there are some things I have been taught and standards I hope to attain, maintain and share with you on this journey.

So you know, June is boy girl smiley 2one of those “love months”. I can’t tell you how many weddings or engagement announcements take place round about this time…Maybe it’s the warmth of the sun, the cooing of the birds or maybe it’s just plain old love.

Anyway, I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced it but truth be told, while we waiting ladies and gentlemen rejoice with our friends and brethren who are moving on and into new unions…many of us ponder and eagerly anticipate our turn…some of us to the point of worry and desperation *yikes* With that being said, I’d like to encourage my waiting (single) sisters and brothers, to HOLD OUT.

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Women Court,Men Date. What’s the difference?

So here’s a question I was asked a while back; “what’s the difference between courtship and dating?” and in doing some research on the arguments out there, I came across this article which I thought was pretty comprehensive. I must say though that this whole idea of dating and courting has a lot to do with culture…and not necessarily the Godly culture. I can’t speak holistically about other cultures, but in Jamaica, it seems we have two kinds of thinking on this: Men Date, Women Court. We’ve all been caught in it at some time..getting all tangled up in “getting to know” someone (believer/unbeliever alike) without purpose aka for the fun of it, believing “this is the one” without seeking God for direction etc.

Anyway, im sharing this one out of concern for the next generation of godly people and even those who think they are already seasoned in it, because i want to see less of us getting tangled in a web we cant fix. It is through knowledge that we become elevated. Hosea 4:6 says My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge…. so let’s get it right peeps! Here goes!

How is courtship different than dating?

What Is Courtship?
understand how courtship differs from dating

Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other. Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage. (See Proverbs 3:5–7.)

‘A Christian Courtship’-Click here to read

Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity. It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.

It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory. It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love. (See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm 9:10, Romans 12:10, Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)

Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique. While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.

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