Hold out

I will hold out for real love

I will hold out for intimacy

I will hold out until my heart is ready

I will hold out for God’s timing

I will hold out for purity

I will hold out for just one man or woman

I will hold out so that I can have butterflies

I will hold out for all that is sacred in God’s eyes

I will hold out when others around me are giving in

I will hold out as long as it takes

I will hold out my open heart to You, Lord

I will hold out my empty hand and wait

I will hold out for my future husband

I will hold out for my future wife

-Rachel Gunn

I know, I know, the last post was about love and relationships and here I am again with another on the topic. I received quite a bit of feedback from you, men, women, teenagers, on the last post requesting further discussions. I truly am grateful for the feedback and hope I can continue the discourse in some of your areas of interest. Now, I am no expert, but there are some things I have been taught and standards I hope to attain, maintain and share with you on this journey.

So you know, June is boy girl smiley 2one of those “love months”. I can’t tell you how many weddings or engagement announcements take place round about this time…Maybe it’s the warmth of the sun, the cooing of the birds or maybe it’s just plain old love.

Anyway, I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced it but truth be told, while we waiting ladies and gentlemen rejoice with our friends and brethren who are moving on and into new unions…many of us ponder and eagerly anticipate our turn…some of us to the point of worry and desperation *yikes* With that being said, I’d like to encourage my waiting (single) sisters and brothers, to HOLD OUT.

Hold out for God’s best. The wait may be long but I believe it is worth it. Here are a few suggestions for holding out. Please feel free to share some of yours.


Be specific. God gives specific answers to specific requests. If your request isn’t specific, you wont know the answer when it comes. Prayer works every time! Your answer could be immediate or it could take some time. Remember Abraham’s servant? When his master gave him the task of seeking a wife for his son-Isaac, he applied the principle of specific prayer. He prayed that the woman he would chose for Isaac would be the one to offer a drink to his camels and also to him…When our dear Sister Rebekah came to the well, he asked her for a drink and all the things he asked God to use in helping him mark Isaac’s wife were manifested and so he knew without a shadow of a doubt that she was the one (Read the story here https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/search=Genesis+24&version=NIRV ).

Pray about your own preparation. Will you be ready when he finds you? Will you be ready if she says yes? Do you think its fair to ask God for the ‘perfect’ man or woman when you are imperfect? Our hearts should be just as prepared for the kind of individuals we are praying for.

Let Go and Move On

What if God has the right maImage result for get a gripn or woman for you, ready and waiting in the wings, but you’re too emotionally engaged in the wrong person to see beyond the immediate feelings?  Ladies, Proverbs 31:10 (NASB) says, “An excellent wife, who can find?” That seems to indicate the man is the one doing the hunting and seeking…Is that still the case fellas? Come out of the jungle of emotional tangles you have been hiding in with the wrong person. Come out into the light so you can be found.

Maybe you’ve already given away your heart. Maybe you’ve given more. Even if you have given yourself away completely, you can choose to start again. You don’t have to continue down that path. Today can be your new beginning. Just because you’ve strayed away from God’s perfect plan for you doesn’t mean the rest of your life will be second rate. The moment you surrender yourself to God, from that moment, you will have God’s best. You are forgiven, pure. The Word says, therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, ALL things are become new –2 Corinthians 5:17 (KJV). And what else does Abba think of this?  He says:

“Come now, let’s settle this,”
    says the Lord.
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
    I will make them as white as snow.
Though they are red like crimson,
    I will make them as white as wool. Isaiah 1:18 (NLT)

A lot may have happened in your past, but trust that God has forgiven you. Maybe, you’re a sister that’s worried that a good, godly man will never want you…That such a man would see you as damaged goods…but do you remember what happened to Hosea? Perhaps, you are a brother…you’ve been around, and you too feel unworthy of God’s best. Just like Rahab, you still have a purpose in God’s story.

Maybe you haven’t given away your body, but what about your emotions? Have you thought, dreamed, hoped, and connected with someone and found yourself emotionally entangled?  Why not start the untangling today?

And, In waiting…

Spend time reading your Bible and praying…but more importantly, become actively involved in the things of God and I don’t mean just going to church on Sunday mornings only…be involved in Children’s ministry, Youth, taking care of the elderly, be a mentor, volunteer…hang out with friends…be occupied…be like Rebekah….be like Joshua working in God’s kingdom. Because really, our minds have no mercy on us sometimes ….always wanting to stray….but isn’t it better that while we wait our minds are kept busy on the things of God? We really have to make the extra effort to stay focused and hold out!

Promise me, O women of Jerusalem,
   by the gazelles and wild deer,
not to awaken love until the time is right – Song of Solomon 3:5 (NLT)

I love the words of these songs….

Take a grip my sister, brother take a grip, another grip,  hold fast and never let go! No matter what the people of the world may say, hold fast and never let go!

I am determined to hold out to the end. Jesus is with me on Him I can depend for I know I have salvation I feel it in my soul, I am determined to HOLD OUT TO THE END! Ciao!


Added inspiration provided by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer (2011)- Preparing for your future husband. Preparing your heart for his. 


9 thoughts on “Hold out

  1. Interesting topic, one that really needs to be discussed authentically esp by young adults. It’s a good thing when a man finds a woman and not when a woman finds a man. Great! Just imagine the wonderful gift God has for a young man that waits on His direction and visa versa. It was good reading this and hope to see more discussions on this! 🙂


  2. Beautifuly articulated! Two.things popped out:
    1. Praying specific prayers – too often we pray but we ourselves are not clear as to what we want so we can’t tell God either. I think we need to ask ourselves honestly what is it I want in a partner. Write them down possibly, then ask do I deserve this partner? Am I ready to handle all that he will come with? We get too carried away with the excitement around the wedding.
    2. WAIT!! While waiting we learn so much about ourselves. I’ve seen too many young ppl rush into marriage and are now living in marriagedom…the devil is a liar!!! It won’t happen to us.


  3. Very interesting topic. Very well said. So very often we get caught up in the thought of wanting companionship we forget to trust God’s will for us. Excellent pointers to guide our waiting.

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  4. Another thought provoking article. It’s very good to be specific with God. However what if my specification is not what God has for me? How do I know he difference?? Being specific also many times we dwell on the outward appearance, for example he should be tall, handsome, son of the bishop, bow leg etc…. without thinking about the inward beauty.

    In being specific let’s look more on the inward man. If you are a strong headed woman like me, it will take a patience and understanding gentleman to make the union work.

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